Keep Monogamy Exciting
How to keep monogamy exciting?
It is about cultivating erotic play, intimacy and keep the game alive. Exploring fun erotic play is essential for all couples to keep things exciting, fresh and achieve a deeper intimacy and strengthen trust. Keeping passion alive in a relationship requires work that involves curiosity, good communication, and a willingness to explore new things - together. No matter how long you have been together with your partner, introducing playful erotic exploration can reignite excitement.
Here are some Bawdy-licious ideas to help you to reignite the spark.
ONE. Communication.
Lets talk about sex outside the bedroom. Before trying anything new, you should discuss it with your partner, ask questions, express your desires, share fantasies. Ask your partner questions like What’s your fantasy? Is there something you’ve always wanted to try? What makes you horny? Do you want to try something new?
Clear communication builds trust, anticipation and ensures both partners feel safe and excited.
TWO. Sensory Play. Touch More.
Erotic play doesn’t have to be elaborate. Engaging the senses can heighten pleasure and awareness.
TOUCH IT. Bawdy is about touch, and since its inception Bawdy has been encouraging others to touch themselves sensually and sexually, and introduce touch outside the bedroom. In the bedroom introduce massage and sex oils, feathers and wands, or ice cubes for temperature contrast.
SEE IT. Bring light to play - candlelight is a perfect step for erotic play - dim it but don’t turn it off completely, introduce lace - lingerie is hot part of a play, or even a blindfold to amplify other sensations.
HEAR IT. Whisper fantasies to your partner ear, don’t be shy to be vocal, set a mood with music, or experiment with complete silence and anticipation.
THREE. Fantasy Role Play.
Role play can add novelty and excitement by allowing you to step into different dynamics or scenarios. It doesn’t need to be theatrical, it is not a movie, often a subtle shift in tone or power dynamic is enough to change the gears. Different roles, bring different dynamics like - strip tease, two strangers, naughty nurse, or a strict teacher, mail order bride etc The key to successful role play is enthusiasm and humor - according to Men's Health article How To Role-Play In Bed And No To Be Embarrassed.
“Sexual fantasies can be about transcending ourselves and feeling creative and liberated in a completely different world, free from any of the constraints of everyday life,” says Shadeen Francis, LMFT.
Role-play can also be a way to explore elements of Bondage/Discipline, Domination/Submission, Sadism, and Masochism (BDSM). “Certain role-play with characters (and costumes, for some) means that you try on the persona that matches them,” Francis says. “If that person is more dominant or submissive, it allows you space to explore what being dominant/submissive is for you within the context of that character.”
FOUR. Erotic Games.
Turn intimacy into a playful adventure. Write down fantasies and draw one at random. Create a yes, no, maybe list to discover overlapping fantasies, card deck like the one from sexologist Natassia Miller.
FIVE. Toys - Only If You’re Curious.
Don't force it. Sexual wellness products can enhance pleasure and exploration. Start plain and simple with massage oils, butt masks and candles, move to vibrators, restraints, or wearables that can open new experiences. Research together and make it a shared adventure rather than a surprise.
Keep in mind that toys are enhancements to the play, not replacements.
SIX. Embrace Aftercare.
After any intense or new experience, make sure to take time to reconnect, come back from the sexual high and fulfilled fantasy to the reality. Simply hold hands and cuddle, express your excitement, laugh, and stay close together. Aftercare reinforces emotional safety and deepens trust, and love.
SEVEN. Keep It Light.
Because not everything new turns out to be as exciting as you thought, and not ever experiment is perfect. Make sure to turn disaster into a funny experience. Sometimes the funniest moments become the most memorable ones.
In the end erotic play is about exploration, trust, and shared pleasure. When approached with openness and respect, it can transform routine into excitement and deepen emotional intimacy. Don’t be afraid to express yourself, give a try to newness and go with the exciting flow.